A Come Back with Poligamy Issue

Assalamualaikum,

It has been so long i did not write. And sorry, i have to write in english. The urge comes that i have to brush up my english. Firstly, please apologize if my language, when i write later does not really meet the standard of proper language. It may have gramatical error here n there but I am learning.

Ok, let's skip the long introductory part.

My heart is constantly thinking that i need to write. This time not a writing like any other blogs talking about life, family, and activities. I have to write on what my heart yells or pour my heart out. Let my mind wanders. It may be a family issues, a marital issues, maybe a bit of political story or anything it deem fit! hahhahaahah.

But mind you, I am not a highly educated person. Just a humble, leading a low life person. And please don't get me wrong, I enjoy reading other blogs too. Happy for them. And love this one blog azie kitchen. She wrote in a manner that shows she isn't hypocrite. She loves to share her knowledge before continuing with her recipes, she talks her mind out. And i believe millions of people read her blog think the same thing as i am.

So, to start my blog afresh, let me start a story which lingers in my mind for quite sometimes. 

Poligamy issue! (it may sound sensitive to some but believe me, am on the women side)

A few weeks ago, somebody in my family passed way peacefully. (better not name who died coz it may hurt with this whole story). 

A story came after that. Arwah had 7 children of which 5 of them are male. Out of 5, 4 have practiced poligamy. That is all right. However during that sad moment, one of her son has to bring back his two wives for the ones dying was mother-in-law to them aka an aunt too to one of his wife. So, both wives met and of course a situation of dissatisfaction overwhelmed, during and after the funeral. I might say, if not controlled they might ended up wrestling in the field we called cemetery! 

And that is the a bit of a whole story. And for me, the real story came up on a night before the tahlil. 

I entered a room for a maghrib prayer and there sat a few relatives, older women in a group. My prayer i would say a bit distracted. After the prayer, i know their real discussion was actually about these two women having a fight during their mother-in-law's funeral.

If I am not mistaken they were condemning one after another of these two "madus". With their so-called advice and  how inappropriate they behaved. Since i know each and every one of them, I was wondering if they were qualified in giving advice. A group of women which i have known for years consist of a woman who had been married for 4-5 times (leader). God knows what's the problem. Then an older woman who has been poligamized by her husband for so many years ago, and upon knowing the fact that she has a madu, she has isolated her husband (not to mention in details) for so many years too. Which i think with life like that she should ended up herself as a divorcee but she is not. And the third one is a younger woman, maybe my age. She used to be a second wife and after getting married, she forced the husband to divorce the first wife ( i know her too) who approved their marriage and did not bug the second marriage at all. Oh my god! What i think was these women will actually shed their husband's bodies into pieces if they were in this madus shoes. 

 Didn't any of them think the responsibility of a husband when he practiced poligamy? 

Lets cut my story short, as far as i know, the husband of these two madus is not fair at all in handling their marriage. i pity them both, a victim of a husband's doing. Poligami adalah perkara halal yang amat pahit diterima oleh wanita. Berdosa menghalang poligami tetapi mampukah si suami berlaku adil jika mahu berpoligami? Wallahualam.

Allah berfirman:

“Dan kamu sekali-kali tidak akan dapat berlaku adil di antara isteri-isteri (mu), walaupun kamu sangat ingin berbuat demikian, karena itu janganlah kamu terlalu cenderung (kepada yang kamu cintai), sehingga kamu biarkan yang lain terkatung-katung..” (An-Nisa’: 129)

Rasulullah SAW bersabda:

“Barangsiapa yang mempunnyai dua isteri, kemudian lebih mencintai kepada salah satu di antara keduanya maka ia datang pada hari kiamat sedangkan tubuhnya miring sebelah. ” (HR. Al Khamsah)

Demam Denggi

Baru ada kesempatan untuk mengucapkan selamat berpuasa pada semua. Memang tertangguh-tangguh nak update sebab memamg malang itu tak berbau..

Half fortnight ago and whole last week i was on mc for dengue fever. Memang sampai kena admit la..at first ingatkan demam biasa, demam urat la konon sebab petang tu pegi mengurut kat tukang urut fave aku. Malam tu balik beli barang-barang dapur singgah farmasi sebab the whole body mmg gatal sangat-sangat, berhari-hari pulak tu. Lepas makan ubat gatal tu la terus collapse. Memang ingatkan sebab ubat gatal la, sebab demam urat la..tau-tau lepas amek darah, confirm denggi.

Apa lagi, sempat jugak la menginap kat wad barang 3 malam..huhuhuu..sian anak-anak kat rumah. Dalam hati ni mmg rasa nak lari je dr hospital tu. Sehari mau 6-7 kali amek darah..sampai ari ni lebam bekas amek darah tu tak hilang lg.

Rupanya denggi ni menyakitkan..masa demam tu mmg la sakit badan urat sendi bagai, dah abis demam tu sakit gak lg. Abis pedih kulit aku ni kalau lepas mandi nak lap macam lap kulit baby dah rasanya. kena buat pelan-pelan..kalo tak mmg sangat la pedihnya. fuhh..selama ni dengar je orang demam denggi, ni dah kena sendiri. Kalu tengok nyamuk pun memang penuh dengan dendam kesumat.

Maka itu, sempat la jugak aku tak puasa sehari kat wad tu...

Tapi yang paling best, boleh lak aku gi duduk kat hospital tubawak baju selai jer..apa lagi, walau pun tangan ni ada drip air tu, aku tetap berjalan keluar tepi wad aku gi shopping baju. heheheh..apa ada hal..bosan giler duduk dalam wad, suasana dull jer..memang bila rasa nak makan, minum lain sikit aku gi beli terus kat kantin dia, kat 24hour shop dia tu..janji dapat amek angin luar! hahhahahah

Kek Raya la pulakkk

Tahun ni rasa macam nak cuba nasib amek tempahan kek untuk raya. Tengah fikir-fikir kalau nak buat tester dulu. Masa? Kalau ikutkan sentiasa tak cukup tapi dah minat, memang la akan diadakan masa tu. Lagipun seronok buat kek ni, baking with passion resulted a to a good cake. chewwahhh..memandai jer..Dalam kepala ni ikutkan nak buat macam-macam..tapi withhold dulu..banyak-banyak karang tak sempat pulokk..heheh

So to happen, in case this little blog has readers, kalau rasa-rasa cam nak makan kek coklat cheese during raya ni, pls feel free to leave me a message in tis blog or whatsapp me at tis no 019-3916916. Pada yang duduk area Shah Alam or KL je la yer..yang kat luar sana tu, kalu nak dipos nanti tak padan pulak kan?

Nak tau camner rupa coklat cheese kek? 

Pic from google

Malang Tak Berbau

Salam Isnin semua..

Mesti ada yang feeling Monday Blues kan? Aku lak feeling tired..kalau nak kira cukup rehat ke tak during weekend tu mmg tak pernah cukup la..banyak kerja, yang tak pernah abis. Kain baju tak pernah surut, makan minum nak kena buat. fuh..anak 5 beb, banyak perut nak kena isi. So cam biasa, kalau weekend  mcm2 menu dok berlegar kat benak ni. 

Let's start a story with Saturday. Pagi-pagi tu dah bangun masak nasi lemak with a ready made delicious sambal given by BFF Ida. So mudah kerja. Tapi semua kena hurry coz nak pegi rumah ida ambik kain n jenguk anak dia sekali. That's why i name tis entry "malang tak berbau". 

See? ni lah anak ida, agak gerun tengok belakang kepala dia ni. They are twin, n tis is adik. Tau apa jadi? Dinding yang separate ruang dalam rumah dia tu dah jatuh kena si adik ni. My god, when i received tis news, aku sendiri yg jadi tak keruan. Can't imagine kalau yg kena tu anak aku. Well, am a mother, kalau yang kena tu anak orang tu aku always feel mcamana la kalu yang kena tu anak aku sendiri..menggigil kepala lutut aku nih. She's ok je masa aku gi tengok adik ni..seorang yang sangat kuat semangat. Sebab according tu Ida, masa kena tu darah penuh merecik dalam rumah, boleh nampak isi dalam kepala tu. ida n bibik dia meraung-raung, kakak n abang menangis meraung jugak tapi adik ni sikit pun tak menangis. Aku pulak yang meremang bulu roma bila dengar citer Ida ni. Gambar muka sebelah depan dia takde, tapi muka dia habis bengkak n mata dia lebam bengkak biru abis. Masa kejadian, memang Ida n Isk bajet tis is time la..maybe anak dia tak lama dah hidup, isk siap call mak dia suruh datang sebab maybe tis is the last time for them to see adik ni. Aku lak time ni dengar citer dah bergenang air mata..feeling sad beb! Tapi doktor cakap its a miracle, dah buat x ray, ct scan semua ok. alhamdulillah..aku harap dia akan ok lagi for all time to come. Isk ada bgtau aku, dia paling ralat sebab cik li aku dah bagitau dia suruh buang dinding tu sebab aku sendiri masa dok bersandar kat dinding tu, memang bergerak nak jatuh, tinggal lagi aku ni sempat tahan n my god, dinding tu berat sangat. Ida sendiri tak larat nak angkat masa hempap anak dia tu.

After that, aku berangkut ngan semua anak-anak pergi KL, amek cik li n pegi amek balance kain kitorang lagi 10 pasang. hamekkk..giler lak duduk situ, sebab banyak kain baru sampai. huhuu..kalau la...kalau..mmg aku nak sambar sangat buat baju sendiri tp sabar yer..kain tu untuk aku n ida nyer projek. huhuu..

N, sunday comes. it all went as usual, chores and such!

Nuh

Nuh Miqhail my baby dah pandai meniarap! huhuhuu...jap je dia boleh duduk diam pastu mesti berpusing-pusing cam gasing. Letak arah north, karang tengok dah duduk south. Tapi dah nak masuk 4 bulan ni aku rasa Nuh ni la baby aku yang paling cool...Nuh ialah seorang baby yang redho jer..ye lah cam sedar diri jer kan..dia baby last (setakat ni la..) tp paling pandai bawak diri. Diam je main kira-kira (pakai jari dia cam tgh mengira) sorang-sorang, pastu ngantuk dia tido. kalau dia boring dia bunyi la sikit, tak pun adik beradik dia datang layan dia jap, dia gelak. Pastu penat dia tido. Tu je la aktiviti dia. Nak susu dia nangis la sikit. 

Tapi ini baby la dia punya perut manyak tadak hal (aku harap berterusan la). Ada satu hari tu cik li aku tersalah bancuh susu kakak bagi dia..omak aiiiii nak pitam aku dengar. Aku paling tensi kalau si anak nih duk nangis tak leh tidur sebab kembung. Tapi dia ilekkk jer..fuh lega!

Baby sitter aku pun siap puji-puji lagi, senang giler nak jaga Nuh aku yg sorang ni. Hari-hari amek dia kat umah baby sitter tu hari-hari gak Kak Dilah (KD) tu puji..kembang kempis lak idung mak dia yer..ttuii. hahahahah.

Tapi tu lah..sampai saat ni mcm tu gak lagi dia, tp tak tau la kot2 dah berubah bulan dah membesar sikit lagi esok dia meragam pulok. Mama doakan dia sentiasa ok dan dilimpahai rahmat selalu..so takdelah nak buat perangai sangat. Aminnn...

Current Issues

Hah amek kau..sekali aku dah on air (ceh perasan artis la sgt!!) berduyun entry aku masukkan. Time ni bukanlah aku free tahap gaban, tapi sambil menyelam minum air...dok gitu? 

First of all, aku nak citer kesusahan aku. susah? mak aiii..hoverr aku yer..kalu laki aku baca ni mau dimarahnya aku! tapi baca la dulu susah jenis apa..heheheh 

Aku susah sangat sekarang sbb aku suka ambik gambar. Pakai camera ke pakai hp ke tak kisah la, tapi asal dapat amek gambar. Tapi masalahnya................................kamera kat hp aku rosak! dah hp zaman hang tuah dulu, punya la susah aku nak bergambo..keja nak bergaya je..bajet rettiiss sgt! muahahah. Masa tu ada ke boleh tebako cam tu @ short circuit kat hp tu. giler panas kat punggung aku sbb aku simpan hp dlm poket belakang seluar, hamek! padan muka aku! eh, ada kena ngena ke ngan topic aku nak citer bab current issues ni..hahahahah. So, pendek citer kalo aku bersendiri gitu, mmg takleh amek gambo la..kalu aku ngan cik li, hubby aku barulah aku kerjakan cam dia habis-habisan..giler ko..dlm cam dia penuh ngan gambo aku je..hahahha..sorry u..selagi tak dapat baru, selagi tu la cam u i kerjakan ekk. 

Pastu ada lg..cam adik beradik aku..ku yang n ku khyra..time aku balik kg ari tu, ada jer gambo yg aku wassap kat cik li, tp of coz la cam hp adik2 aku yg jd mangsa..tak kijam la sgt, tolong menolong adik beradik kan namanya. N one more not to left out, my partner cum BFF ida, apa yang dia amek gambo, mana aku share kat blog ni actually dia dah share dah kat blog dia dulu, kira aku share balik 2 in 1 la jadinya. mesti korang pikir, sanggup ko ekk? omak sanggup uollss. So, jadila blog aku ni yg agak2 pictureless ya. Aku berangan nak cam EOS yg beso tuh sbb aku tau cik li blh je layan aku yg giler gak la bergambo, cuma compared tu ku yang n ku khyra (silings) tak la segila diorang. Diorang byk cam extra..hahahha

 ni guna cam cik li..nasib la papa, nak buat caner..anak-anak pun dah ngikut omak ehh..

Lagi current issue, haze. Everywhere people talk, write, suffer with haze. aku kategori mana? blur jap..annoying, sbb baju yang aku jemur semua bau asap! benci, especially aku nyer downy perfume tu dah abis pastu tak ingat nak beli. Anak-anak aku best giler sbb haze ni, diorang duduk rumah je, tak yah sekolah..aku tension jer..sebab omak eh pun kalau boleh tanak keja jugak..tapi yg ni mmg tak berdaya la nak lawan lebey2 tau..

lagi? ada lagi... aku now really really into biz! wallah..kellas ko ja..bkn jah ye. Kat kg nama manja aku Ja. huhuhu..ko namakan apa yg aku tak biz skrg? semua ada..cuma tak jual anak ngan jual diri jer...kalo haze tu benda yg elok, particles dia tu good for our health dah lama aku promote suh korang semua datang shah alam menghirup udara haze yg sssggtt la elok tu. .kuang kuang kuang

N one more thing, oleh kerana aku sgt in la into biz ni, ada satu projek nak promote diri aku next week. hahahah..kalo ada rezeki akak, ada la yer..nak tau? tungggu tauuu xoxo

Biz Raya

Banyak benda dalam kepala aku ni. Nak fikir, nak hias, nak konsep, nak promote, macam-macam ada. Aku dok imagine kepala hotak ni kalau boleh describe camana rupanya, dia dah jadi cam globe tu. Tau globe? Bukan globe kat jalan TAR shopping complex tu yer..kalo tak tau google ek? globe yang diputar ligat. badan satu tangan ada dua tapi semua nak buat, heheh..

Puasa dah nak dekat, sana sini orang dah display kuih-kuih raya, tester biskut raya, baju raya, kereta raya and the list goes on...apa saja la yang baru dlm sebulan dua ni boleh dibuat raya..hheheh. 

Aku? well...hmmm...now tengah work on a project ngan my BFF ida of ida_homelicious . fuyooo..cam besar je bunyi tu kan? tak..tak besar pun, small time biz starting as a small time entrepreneur. Tapi later-later kalo jadi besar pun apa salahnya kan? kan? Nak tau projek apa..tungguuu..tak lama lagi aku bgtau. kalu boleh bukan setakat bagitau, kita on sale terus!